Meet Francesca Adinolfi, a member of The Sleep Nanny consultant team;
Tell us a little bit about yourself;
I’m Francesca, based in Hampshire. I am a mum of 2. Matteo is 4 years old and Sofia is 13 months old.
Why do you want to help sleepless families?
I experienced sleep deprivation myself. It was hard and I had no support from the health visitor or GP. We were desperate, every single task felt impossible. I was in tears over little things and we just couldn’t take it anymore. Our family was falling apart. We contacted a sleep consultant and changed our life completely, my boy was finally sleeping , he was able to be a boy again and not grumpy and sad all day. This was my main focus – I wanted to give this back to other families. I wanted to give them this gift, change their life for the better.
Describe your approach to ‘sleep training’
A very gentle approach which promotes secure attachment with a bespoke plan, child have all different temperaments, personalities and life style, parenting is different, so they all should have a different approach. My dedication is to support parents of young children out of the cycle of exhaustion and feeling of guilt because they can not cope with what they think are the child needs. Together we can work towards a balanced life where going to bed is part of a normal routine.
Do you have any particular areas of specialism?
I have worked for over 15 years with young children and trained as a maternity nurse and breastfeeding consultant.
What are your top 3 sleep tips for parents?
1. Consistency is the key. Sending clear messages rather than conflicting messages. Create an environment that is helping to sleep.
2. Particular attention to the total amount of day time sleep and the way is spread out really matters.
3. Maintain routine and consistency even if your child is sick or teething or going through a developmental phases.
In your experience, what are the most common mistakes parents make?
Giving mixed messages to the child. Toddlers and young children don’t have the capacity to understand why it is allowed one time to do something and he is not allowed the next time. Mixed messages are likely to increase tantrums, frustrations and anxiety. A clear simple and consistent message and boundaries is the way to go to help them understand what is expected.
What would you say to someone who is afraid that nothing can help them in their situation?
Not to be afraid of changes. I ‘ll be there to support them and make sure they are comfortable with what we discussed. Children are very good to adapt to a new routine and situation and they respond very well to changes.
What do you love about your job?
I love helping the families gain the life balance they crave. The changes in the relationship, and daily life, how the child reacts to all his new skills and his new way to see the world with tons of energy . It is a great feeling and I am part of this incredible transformation that happens in such a short time. It is magical and rewarding.
If you have your own sleep issues then click on the link below to book a free 15 minute call with Francesca.