The Sleep Nanny® Ethos
Many parents ask “Are you a cry-it-out proponent or family bed advocate? Do I have to stop breastfeeding to sleep coach my child, do I have to choose between two camps: cosleeping/no crying or crib/cry-it-out?”
You do not have to pick a camp; this isn’t about right or wrong. It’s about what is working for you and your family.
It is true that the CIO method and the starker extinction methods can work well and a bit faster than gentler methods IF you, as the parent can follow through consistently and for long enough.
Our lovingly responsive approach was created to bring out the best in a little ones sleeping ability and to gain lasting results. Many parents have difficulty following through with a sleep training plan as they fear it will damage their child emotionally or it fills them with so much guilt they can’t follow through. We create plans that are kind to the child and kind to the parent, making them much more manageable and therefore parents can stick to the plan and reach their goals for their child.
This approach is a gentler alternative for families who emotionally or philosophically resist letting their babies cry it out: for families who tried “Ferber” (controlled crying) and it didn’t work, and for families who let their baby cry-it-out earlier but now find it doesn’t help. It is also for families who believe in co-sleeping but find that their children aren’t really sleeping all that well, even nestled snugly with their parents. Or for families who did co-sleep for a few months to a few years and now want the family bed to revert back to the marital one.
Can you guarantee “no crying” you might ask? No, no one really can. For example, if you, as the parent, have taught your child that the way to fall asleep is to be held to sleep for all naps, bedtime and wakings and you decide that you want to change this; your child will naturally protest or resist this change. After all, they don’t know why you have changed your approach. If your child is pre-verbal then they will cry. My goal is to have as little crying as possible. I encourage parents to be loving and responsive but to allow the child the room to learn this vital life skill of putting themselves to sleep. The parent responds and stays with their child and offers physical and verbal reassurance without putting the child to sleep. This supports the development of a secure attachment between parent and child.
We will work with you to create an individualised, step-by-step sleep plan that will factor in your parenting philosophy, your child’s age, health and temperament, mother’s well-being and the related family dynamics. And most importantly we will support and coach you through the process from beginning to end- for night sleep and naps!
If you have any questions about The Sleep Nanny® ethos, please don’t hesitate to ask. I can be reached by email at firstname.lastname@example.org or by telephone on 0330 999 8890.